Family Conflict: Should Parents Expect Care from Their Adult Children?
Family conflict often starts when expectations clash—especially around money, caregiving, and emotional support.
Martha (56) raised her daughter alone after her husband passed away. She worked multiple jobs, paid for college, helped with rent, and even planned to contribute to a condo down payment. She believed family means mutual care—especially later in life.
But when Martha joked about moving in during retirement, her daughter shocked her:
“I love you, Mom, but I won’t be your caregiver. Parents shouldn’t expect that from their kids.”
Heartbroken, Martha reconsidered her own support. She told her daughter she would no longer help financially with the condo. Not as punishment—but as alignment. If support isn’t mutual, she needs to protect her future.
Now her daughter accuses her of manipulation. Her sister says she’s being petty.
Martha says she’s simply setting boundaries.
Who’s right? Should parents expect care from their adult children—or is that unfair pressure?
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